Even if You are not born in Bihar or Your grandpa has left the state of bihar some 40 years back and you have never ever known which town in bihar your ancestoral home was once upon a time, but still you are a bihari by all means. You can't be a Bengali or Asames, Andhraite or any other "li,es or ite", even though your family has been contributing to society or the state where you are currently residing for past 40 years as much as any "li,es or ite" may or more than any of those so called "li, es or ite". You always have to mention that once upon a time your roots are from bihar and you are a bihari, not the "li, es or ite" of that state. Ahhh to much of melodrama right, but this is what I am or have to say when some one ask me where you belong to. And there is no harm in admiting and no regret to accept the fact that I am a bihari and I said this to each and everyone, who has asked me with my head full of pride. But mind you this confession will bring you some well practiced adjective and features to your profile, that so called civilized society of that particular state or the person asking, has attributed to a bihari. But whats wrong with it? I say no harm... Then why this waste of resource of space and energy for this word called "bihari".
I wanted to write about this being Bihari for a long time but my perception and view about being labeled as Bihari has changed dramaticaly since I have come to Delhi. What was my strong belief of being Bihari, what it meantto the rest of India, has been attacked and belief has been jolted by what this Delhi/NCR people think of Bihari.
I will write or bifurcate my content in two parts a) being Bihari in eastern India and b)being bihari in North
If you live in bengal the special adjective for bihari is "Merdua [and NRB (non reliable biharies)]"- It means someone who don't have manner,s illiterate, rowdy and, raunchy, you have the freedom to ornate this word with any adjective in that sense whcih exemplify a ugly thoughtless, mannerless creature. Ohhh too nasty... But the best part is that every bihari who, whom I know, lives in bengal takes it as an compliment to their status. They have a complete different meaning for that word "Merdua". For us, the bihari, it is an compliment of our bravery and our boldness that we can show off at any time and at any place, no matter where we are, who all are watching us, etc etc. Because nothing bothers us, we are the free spirit and we do things as we please and we care a damm what others think of us. Let me clarify one thing not every bihari take this compliment positively, there are few who takes offence of this as well, poor fellows but they are very few. Hey I didn't belong to the category of those poor moron who take offence of this, I was a proud bihari who took pride in the word till I crossed the hallowed wall of NIT Jamshedpur. Hey, don't blabber like this, anyone from that exceptional moron and forlorn souls can ask me, whether I have any facts to boast our bravery in public with so much authority. I would ask those sophistacted idiots to shut up and enjoy a incidence that I am going to narrate,
No offence to any bihari, I can't offened a bihari as I am one myself and a Proud one... This a onepart of the story that I have seen, faced, experienced and living with... But one thing for sure we bihari's need to change to be respected by others... We need amendment in our attitude for the sake of our own improvment and have to stop enjoying the label of being noisome creature... enough of crap Sighning out... [:)]